Who are we supposed to be?

By Galina Yanchova

What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?

Eleanor Roosevelt

Self-confidence is an essential part of humanity. A person with self-confidence generally likes themselves, is willing to take risks to achieve their personal and professional goals, and thinks positively about the future.

Someone who lacks self-confidence, however, is less likely to feel that they can achieve their goals, and tends to have a negative perspective about themselves and what they hope to gain in life.

Everyday we are bombarded with advertisement, peer pressure, and the judgement of complete stranger, each telling us how to be better or what kind of person to be…

We are led to believe that the perfection is achieved only when we live a certain kind of life, so if we don’t we feel imperfect and unworthy. But it does not have to be like this. We don’t need to conform to become who we are supposed to be. In fact, who we are meant to be is already inside us.

What we need to do is to reject the media’s messages of perfection and learn to embrace the unique imperfections that makes who we are.

Self-confidence is something you can improve!

Change and growth are always possible when you’re motivated and determined, regardless of your past, your personality, or your self-perception. If you want to be confident, you can be—if you’re willing to take action. And not just one action or a few actions, but repeated actions until fear and doubt no longer have a grip on you. Please contact us if you are serious with yourself and you want to make changes in your life.

Building self-confidence requires you to cultivate a positive attitude about yourself and your social interactions, while also learning to deal with any negative emotions that arise and practising greater self-care.

1.Identify your negative thoughts. – Like:”I can’t do that,” “I will surely fail”, “no one wants to hear what I have to say.” This inner voice is unhelpful and will hold you back from achieving self-confidence.

2. Turn your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. – Like: “I am going to try it,” “I can be successful if I work at it,” or “people will listen to me.”

3. Eliminate reminders of your negativity. – Take the time to sit down and think about all of the things that are bringing you down, from friends, a career you don’t much care for, or a living situation that is almost unbearable.

4. Identify your talents. – Everyone is good at something, so discover the things at which you excel, and then focus on your talents. Find something you enjoy and cultivate a talent to go with your interest.

You can add a variety of interests or hobbies to your life that will make you more confident.

5 Accept compliments – Take it to heart and respond positively. You can add the compliment to your list of positive attributes about yourself and use it to bolster your self-confidence.

Confidence comes from a Latin word fidere’ which means “to trust”; therefore, having self-confidence is having trust in one’s self. Arrogance or hubris in this comparison is having unmerited confidence – believing something or someone is capable or correct when they are not.

Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.

Theodore Roosevelt.

Author: Galya

I am passionate, honest, sincere, growing and developing, loving, caring. I am loyal. I am persistent, diligent. I am fun but not perfect :-)

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